How An Executive Drop His Anger After his LBL Session
Mr B came in for a Life Between Lives Therapy for the quest of Managing his anger, aggression. Being a senior executive perhaps promotes his inner feelings of: “if the external does not fit or meet with my level of expectations of perfection. I take it personally and drop into my lifetime pattern of feeling rejection, and therefore, I feel devalued.
Below is the extract of Mr B. LBL session, a dialogue between Mr B and his Soul Group Members.
Mr B (B): Ghor is telling me when I have feelings of rejection and do not feel valued, it is as if I am looking into a mirror maze, like in a circus fun house. I do not know whether I am looking at myself or at the people who devalue me. It is a trap and I am lost in there. I ask Ghor how do I get out? He says by focusing away from those who devalue you. Focus either on my spirit, spirit guide, or the realm of heaven. I’m too distracted by the physical. He is reminding me to look inside, because outside, for sure, you will not get your satisfaction. Once I connect inside, then I am in the present.
Therapist (T): Does he offer you a tool for doing so?
B: First to touch my forehead to bring my attention there. Also, Ghor is encouraging me to pick up sward fighting again. I did that when I was young.
T: Does he mean literally or symbolically?
B: Both. Literally, sward fighting aligns the physical with the spiritual. Symbolically, using the spiritual sward will keep me focused on what is relevant and essential – to stay simple and not load myself up with all kinds of distractions. and in particular, he is saying I need to drop appointments with all kinds of people who stir me up.
T: Is there more to describe here?
B: Yes. The fear of being rejected is actually a great, grea tool. He is pointing out that when I am in the mirror maze, I am with the wrong people, and I am wasting my time. So this is actually a signal and a flag. It is a really cool spiritual tool, the fear of being rejected.
The next part of the conversation is between Mr B’s Soul and His Council.
B: I am being told I should not be so arrogant. I do not quite understand.
T: Is there a tool for you about the arrogance, perhaps a specific place in your body or an attitude they can describe to you so that you have a greater understanding?
B: Ah, yeah. I know it all. I always pull my energy up into my head because I feel I have to know it all. I can control my environment this way, but, of course, that not possible. They are telling me that is arrogant or the core definition of arrogance. Thinking this way keeps me in my head all of the time. I have to drop that.
T: Is there a way that they can guide you into dropping or moving out of arrogance?
B: They have a very good way. They just suggested I clean the kitchen floor on my hands and knees. The energy will circulate through my body instead of getting stuck in my head. All right – that brings the head down for sure!
T: Do they suggest how often?
B: Once or twice a week (laughs), they nailed me. I thought I would get out of this one. They are really serious about this. I really have to do this.
T: Anything more?
B: This is so funny – Really Funny. I am being directed to do kitchen work. Most of the time I should be cleaning the kitchen. They are telling me to keep the kitchen spiffy clean. If it is spiffy clean, then I do not need to worry about my pretty little head. They do not think it is funny as I tried to make it funny (my way of trying to get out of it). But it’s not possible. They are really serious about this one.
T: anything else?
B: Yes. I need to teach my son to do the same thing – how to clean the kitchen and the bath.
Outcome: Mr B. wrote back several months later after the session. “I engage in sword fighting with my 10-year old son on our back porch. In doing so, my son learned how to express his aggression without fear of me. We both allow ourselves to express aggression in a relationship-building manner. This helps strengthening our relationship which is important and dear to me. In addition, I also apply the learning from my LBL session to my executive meetings, my fellow executives express that I am so much calmer in meetings than I was in the past. I learned to touch my forehead to split my aggression, This takes me inside, and it directs my energy to feel present. I also followed the councils’ advice to scrub the kitchen floor every week and found I learned to be humble, a quality that cannot be taught, only acquired and maintained”.
After one year of scrubbing the floor, Mrs B feedback: “I am impressed. He is keeping his anger in control.”
